Riding Bitch

The daily musings of a writer.

Building a Pyramid (minus Pharaoh)


First of all, thank you to the people who started following the blog yesterday. Your turkeys are in the mail. As a follow up, I thought I would share a thought about blogging today. I had a moment of hesitation before publishing yesterday’s post. It was a discomfort with basically admitting that I want people to read the blog. Not that a Follower necessarily equals a Reader. As a matter of fact, if I had to choose, I’d rather you read than follow. But you get my point.

Clearly, I overcame my hesitation. And this is why.

The reason we blog is to reach people. Yes, it’s also about expressing ourselves but if we didn’t want to reach people, we would be expressing ourselves in a more private setting, not on the World Wide Web. In my opinion, the blogger who writes “I don’t care if anyone reads my blog” is either lying to him/herself or lying to you. Of course, they care. We all care. To what extent and for what reason, however, differs from blogger to blogger.

A lot of blogs are about giving advice. Some are literary, like a journal, newspaper, or book. Some are commercial, trying to sell a product, promote a business or person. People blog about art, photography, writing, yoga, religion, philosophy, politics, sex, travel, cooking, cartoons, you name it.

Then there are those more intimate blogs where people vent their feelings. I do believe some of these folks don’t care if they have 10 or 10,000 followers. Actually, they would probably be freaked out by 10,000. They’re blogging simply to release deep emotions which they can’t share with friends and family. They might not seek out followers but they probably hope to reach someone, if only to feel like they are not alone.

This blog is a bit of a hybrid. I am a widow who vents, shares and expresses herself quite honestly and intimately here. I find this cathartic and hugely rewarding. I am also a filmmaker and a writer, which means I inherently want to reach people with my art.

Put another way, I like to think of my blog as a very personal pyramid. I’m not sure exactly how big I want this pyramid to be, but I do know I’d like people to be able to see it. Not necessarily from space, but not just if you’re standing in my one-bedroom apartment either. I’m not building if for Pharaoh, but for myself. And I’m not building it alone either. You’re helping me build it. You’re the foundation, really. For if each post is like a brick, then each view, like, follow or comment is like a bit of mortar.

And while it’s true I want people to read the blog, I also don’t advertise it (other than on WordPress). I don’t twitter my posts or post them on Facebook. I’ve only told a few people I know about it. With some, I’ve only said “I have a blog” but haven’t told them the name. It’s more than shyness, I feel it would be inappropriate to solicit my friends and colleagues to read the blog.

Sometimes (like yesterday) I might yell out to the blogosphere, “Hey, I’m building a pyramid over here!” But for the most part, I’m content to simply work on it quietly and build it slowly, like my ancestors did, one brick at a time.


Author: nivaladiva

Freelance writer and independent filmmaker.

6 thoughts on “Building a Pyramid (minus Pharaoh)

  1. Good luck with the pyramid building

  2. I love that you’re comparing building your readership and fan base to building a pyramid. My blog has a very small, very specialized pool of readers, hence why my view and follower numbers grow at a snails pace and I’m conflicted as a writer on how to feel about this. I’m new to blogging and there is something terrifying about writing a piece and publishing it so openly when it’s still fresh and raw, but it’s also a relief. I was hoping that the blogsphere would offer more direct feedback from readers, that has so far not been the case for me, but people have been very supportive and that is refreshing on a medium that is so often callus and uncivilized.

    • Thanks so much for your comment. It certainly is scary to share one’s work on a blog (or in any forum really) but I think it’s a normal fear. And it’s healthy to overcome it as you’ve been doing. Moving at a snail’s pace isn’t necessarily a bad thing, in my opinion. I’m glad folks are being supportive to you. That’s what’s important.

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